14. You will never have to question whether or not the man you marry loves you. Even if everything else is up in the air, even if everything else has totally fallen to shit, you know that there is something deeper between you, and it’s all you really need. The boy you date will never give you that feeling of assuredness. Not because he didn’t say it, not because he didn’t act like it, but because somewhere within you, you know it isn’t true
Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, or codes, Love is about giving. Love is a verb to be acted upon. Love is when you are vulnerable. Love is when you are comfortable around him/her and you cant be anybody but yourself. Love is when you share yourself, your dreams, your life, it’s when you want your partner to be involved in everything that you do. Love is when you wait for him/her, no matter how long it is. Love is when s/he will never ask you to change who you are in order to be loved. Love is when you FULLY accepts your partner for who s/he is, But it’s also love when you change yourself on your own decision because you know its for the better. Love is when you respect him/her as a person and respect his/her life goals and decisions. Love is when you become selfless and you think of your partner’s sake more than your own. Love is when you are willing to do EVERYTHING to make him/her happy, even though it means not being with you. Love is when you care for your partner and has his/her back, no matter what the circumstances. Love is when you do things just to make her smile, no matter how ridiculous and embarrassing it is. Love is when you look into your partner’s eyes and you see nothing but your future together. Love is when you want to be on his or her side, ALWAYS. Love is when you’re willing to fly and cross the ocean for him/her. Love is something you’d fight for. Love is when you can imagine spending your whole life with him/her and growing old together. Love is when you see your partner standing beside you in front of the priest (marriage). Love is when you want to have a family and take care of kids together. Love is when you understand each other and communicate without speaking that only the two of you can understand. Love is when you know what s/he wants without even asking. Love is when you have seen the best and the worst of him/her but you still choose to be with him/her. Love is when your relationship doesn’t revolve around sex. Love is when you will NEVER hurt him/her, emotionally and physically. Love is when you put God first and offer your life and love to Him.
"And they say that a man who puts his woman’s happiness first is very rare, and therefore is someone to be cherished." (disclaimer)
But being single for almost all my life is not a bad idea at all. We get the love we think we deserve and i believe my man is just somewhere out there and i will wait patiently until he comes into my life and by that time, i know everything will be worth it. I dont want to love any man, i want to love THE man :)
So here’s my hopeless romantic side speaking since it’s the love month. Happiness, bitterness, people have mixed emotions during Valentine’s Day. But remember it’s not only for couples, its all about different kinds of love, love for friends, family and everyone else.
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!
I don’t know your name. I don’t know who you are or where you are or when we will ever meet. I don’t know whether or not you are already in my life somewhere. I don’t even know if you exist in this lifetime. I’d like to believe you’re walking this earth someplace, but sometimes I’m not sure if I even believe in the idea of fate and romance anymore. Maybe you can save me from myself.
If you are in this lifetime and on this planet though, I hope I don’t meet you anytime soon. I have a lot to learn and I will probably hurt you, because I don’t know yet that you are the one who will make me happy.
I’ve been through a lot. But while I wish you could have been there with me, I know you will be proud of me because of how strong I turned out to be and all the things I made it through without you. See, I had to be alone for a while so I’d know what I’m capable of. And so I’d appreciate having someone like you more.
I like being single right now because all my time is mine. I need to be single for a while so I will not regret not having this kind of freedom in the future. When I’m yours, I’ll be completely yours because I had this time to be mine.
But sometimes I miss being in love. There are days when I wish you can get here faster just so I can have the kind of love that I’ve been waiting for since what feels like forever. But I guess it’s better that you’re not here yet because I don’t know how to be with you right now. I’ll probably say a lot of really stupid things and scare you away.
You won’t just the love of my life, you will also be my best friend in the world. I’d always thought of all my old loves as best friends at the time, but I don’t think I ever really knew what that meant. I love that I will be able to tell you anything and everything and know that you will be the one person in the world who understands.
We won’t always get along and we will more-than-possibly get into some really ugly fights, but I know that in the end, we can make it through because nothing is more important than learning and growing together.
We are probably different people with diverse interests, and that’s a good thing. We will make time for what is important to the other because we like making each other happy. Of course, there will be things that we enjoy doing together. We will spend some days curled up with a blanket and books or popcorn and a good movie. Braveheart will always be a favorite between us, and reruns of FRIENDS will take up some of our lazy Sundays. But we will spend most of our time going around the world together, seeing places we’ve only once dreamed of traveling to.
We both love to talk and laugh, and we will spend a lot of our time getting to know each other. Even when we’ve been together 20 years, we will always find something new about the other or reminisce about the people we once had to be to get there. And while I will probably roll my eyes at your jokes, I will also smile just because it’s so cute how you tried to tell the punch line.
You’ve probably loved a girl (or more) before me, and that’s okay. I’m sorry though if you’ve gotten hurt and I wasn’t there to make you feel better. I’ve been in love before you, too, and I’ve also gotten my heart broken and feel like nobody could really understand. It will take a long time before I can let anyone else in again, and maybe you feel the same way. It will be better to find each other after going through all that, just so we will both know how to not take being in love for granted.
We’ve both become better people separately, something I will always be thankful for. And because of all the pain we have to go through before we meet, we will both realize then that we deserve that happiness and we deserve each other.
I don’t know what you look like but I know you have kind eyes and a genuine smile. I don’t know what you do for a living but I know that you will have time for me. I don’t know you, but I know that you can give me hug when I’m down, hold my hand for no reason and kiss me just because you love me.
There’s a possibility though, that you don’t exist, and I’m writing this letter for no one. But in spite of all the cynicism I’m entitled to, I have to believe that you’re out there somewhere. I have to believe that all the heartache I’d ever had to endure will someday lead me to you. I have to believe that God created you because He knew I would need you. And while I know I’m a complete person on my own, I have to believe that someone like you exists, someone who might not complete me, but can make life better. More beautiful. More colorful. A man who can make me believe in love again.
I don’t know who you are or if I’ll ever find you, but I wish with all my heart that you’re out there, waiting, just like I am.
I know that someday I will find you. In this lifetime, or the next, I will find you.